Footprints On The Storm
5 weeks ago
Memories Of A Fading Friendship
Life operates in strange ways. Why is it that we suddenly start thinking of old memories and friends out of the blue? There are some memories that bring a smile on the face and some that makes you equally sad. Your best friends become rare acquaintances, long phone conversations are reduced to awkward hello’s and hi’s. Only memories remind you of the good times that you have had. Some relationships drift with time, life moves on and so do people. How nice it would be to wipe away some memories and its implications. Life is cruel at times; it creates situations when you come face to face with your past and you are left with a buzzing numb sensation of how things have changed. How you wish the incident that caused this distance had never happened. You wonder if your friends feel the same way too or if they are too pre occupied to even think of these things. Common friends are probably the ones who are still keeping the fading friendship from dying and they are also remainders of the great friendship that was once shared. The whole purpose of looking at photographs is lost, it no more brings joy, it reminds you of the wonderful past along with the reality of the present. Are some friendships meant to be short lived? It’s surprising how years of mischief, ridicule, protectiveness, giggles, apologies can all be upturned by one bad incident and life will never be the same with that friend. Many times we wonder if our friends also feel the same.
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They do feel same, but guess as people grow up, after school, colleges, they look forward to their career and get busy in it, earning than with family of their own. Often all miss good times and even bad times that all had with each other. But weight of responsibilities puts barrier on just keep doing all as used to. Whatever time we may find can always keep in touch, best way is don't let yourself feel been out of touch for too long with them, and whenever meet carry on like you met yesterday, a big long day's talk :P
Its the same on both the sides. Presence is short lived not the feeling of friendship. It takes one conscious effort to make things fair. We can try to set things right but result is not sure. So better try than let it go. Rest is life... :)
@Rax and @Sham: Welcome to my blog. Truly appreciate your comments!!
It happens to all of us. Situations change people. It changes us as well and so our perceptions change with it....but life has to go on so that you make some more friends along the way.
But yes what you have written is so true...it makes me wonder as well...if my friends think about it too...
@Lazy Pineapple: Yes we all move on in life and make new friends. I always feel that every person you meet in life teaches you something. Life becomes so much more simpler when we think like this.
nice blog Milana! Your post reminded me of incident that evoked a similar reaction..anyway the jist is; with time you move way from some and a few new come close to you..!
Yes Pallavi, life goes on and makes way for new friends but how nice it would be if we could still retain all of our old friends as well. Thanks a lot for visiting my blog!!!
There is a saying that one should write about bad memories in sand (so that it is erased in due course) while the good one should be written on stone to be read any time, again and again.
@Ayyangar: I completely believe in that saying but sometimes its hard to completely forget certain things. Things can definitely improve but it cannot be the same.
*sigh* this happens to everyone? i thought i was the only bad friend! :(
You are so right there... I think people should be open with feelings and sit out and talk to clear the doubts.. At times it will just be a trivial issue or confusion that digs the chasm
@Addy: Hahaha so now you know what you should be doing. Get back in touch with your old friends.
@Farila: Yes, its often trivial things that leads to big fights. Ego also plays an important role here. Most of the times its because of ego that people dont try to get in touch with their friends and wait for the other person to make the move. It is this perpetual wait that is the enemy.
always with me also :(
I loved the bit about photographs! I can relate to it! I have a whole folder of pics of people I don't want to see but could not get myself to delete those pics either! You are forgetting there are friends who just drift away without any hard feelings & it feels the same no matter how many years later you talk. The giggles, the pranks everything. You are comfortable with them right away! And I too wish I could sort out things with a few people. But it is almost impossible to do it one sidedly!
@Adarsh : I guess all of us go through it. Its a part and parcel of all of our lives.
@Ashwath: I'm glad that I made good friends with whom I can talk to after a year or so and still feel at ease like nothing has ever changed but as you said there will always be a few with whom things can never be the same no matter how much effort you put in to set everything right. Its like being stuck in the middle, you cannot run towards the person nor run away from them.
"Dekh raha hun wo jahaz jo zara der baad dikhai nahi dega....
..har saal yahan aana toh ek taraf, dus saal mein ek baar bhi milna mushkil hoga"
Memories it is ! Good one !
@Vinod: Wah! Wah! Vey nice one. It's so apt for the present topic.Thanks for visiting my blog Vinod.
What a wonderful post :)
Loved the feeling that so many of us think on the same lines. You gave me hope that maybe my friends too think on the same lines and would miss me from time to time just the way I do :)
Keep up the good work :)
Cheers!!
I am actually going through a phase like this and you totally said what was in my mind :D
But I realize that I have changed and my friends are memories of my past self.
Wonderful writting,
Everyone who read this will releate to their life!
I felt for every words written here and really went back memory lane...
Well, if you start a phone conversation with "heeey,mad fellow" or "wat idiot,ditched ur gf?? found time to call up at last.." something cranky like that.. Then it wouldn't be awkward ;) trust me!
Really nice post.. :)
@Chatterbox: Hey thanks a lot. I know, I totally agree with you. At some point or the other in life, all of us go through similar incidents isn't it. Its just amazing how life works sometimes.
@gtoosphere: I can understand what you must be feeling. People change and new friends come along. I guess that's how life is.
@Ramya: Thank you so much. I'm glad you could relate to the post, it makes me really happy to know that.
@Ajan: Hey good idea!! I will definitely try that next time. Sure requires some guts but its definitely worth a try. Thank you.
Hi Milana! Its a wonderful post.. and I'm reposting it, as m in the same boat as u..! :)
Hey Anu that is great but I would appreciate it if you could put my blog's reference wherever you have reposted it.
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